This post was originally published on September 16, 2011 as a guest post on Audra Michelle’s blog, Rediscovering Domesticity. Audra has closed that blog and is starting over at AudraMichelle.com. She has graciously allowed me to republish my guest post here. Enjoy!
We all know those moms who seem to have it all together all. of. the. time. You know who I mean.
You drop by her house unannounced and it is so clean that it looks like no one even lives there. You happen to run into her at the grocery store and her hair looks better than yours did on prom night. At parties she always brings the most amazing desserts, yet she hardly weighs 10 pounds. She is put together 123% of the time and it makes you want to throw up.
If you don’t know a mom like this, then guess what. You probably are that woman! That seems silly, right? Because of course you don’t have it all together all of the time. Yet, we fool ourselves into thinking women actually do!
My guess is that most “Always-Put-Together Moms” are actually a lot like my kitchen. Allow me to explain…
This is my kitchen. We moved into this house a year ago and the kitchen was brand new at that time, so it is a fairly nice space. I didn’t do any special cleaning before this picture and if you ignore the produce stand that has thrown up all over my counter top and the clean dishes in the sink, then I think it looks pretty good!
But when we start to look a little closer…
What exactly is in this sink?
- My Toddler’s Bathtub Book – It was growing mildew in between the pages and should have been washed a long time ago. YUCK!
- My Toddler’s Highchair Tray – This was the first good scrubbing I gave the tray all day, which means that some breakfast crumbs got to enjoy lunch also.
- Our Water Pitcher – I have no clue when was the last time was that I actually washed this before refilling it and putting it back in the fridge.
Speaking of the water pitcher…
Are you kidding?!?! I was suppose to replace the filter when?!?!?! I officially apologize to anyone whom I have served water to in the last 5 months.
And in my fridge…
Yep, not just one, but two jars of moldy food. It is at this point that my mother just unsubscribe from my blog.
The worst part is that after I took this picture I put those jars back in my fridge because I didn’t have the time to clean them out and recycle them. As I’m writing this they may or may not still be in there. Please don’t tell my mom.
I could go on and on… The constantly disorganized spice cabinet that makes me want to scream… The left over seed packets that have been on the counter since spring… The tupperware drawer that my husband and I regularly argue about…
My “put-together kitchen” is just an illusion. So is that mom that always makes you feel bad about yourself.
We all have our faults and problems. Some people’s problems are just more visible than others. You might have clutter control issues, but maybe “Always-Put-Together Mom” suffers from low self esteem, over spending, or feels disconnected from her husband.
This post isn’t about trying to put down the “Always-Put-Together Mom” by speculating about her deep secrets. It is about recognizing that none of us are perfect no matter how we seem on the outside.
So stop beating yourself up and go clean out your fridge instead. Heaven knows I need to!
How do you handle the temptation to compare yourself to an “Always-Put-Together Mom?”