Last May, Erin from The Humbled Homemaker shared a post I had written in 2010 about washing disposable swim diapers. She has a large facebook following and the post took off like wild fire. The Facebook post received 1,113 likes, over 300 comments, and 3,932 shares. All of that attention on Facebook resulted in my highest blog traffic day ever up to that point. Over 16,000 different people visited my blog that day.
Unfortunately, it wasn’t all good news for me, because it was also the day the natural living community turned on me.
The comments came pouring in…
Many, many, MANY people thought that I was disgusting, an idiot, or both for suggesting that people can wash a disposable swim diaper and use it again. The cloth diaper users thought I was stupid for not using a cloth swim diaper. The disposable diaper users thought I was disgusting for wanting to wash any kind of diaper. Reading this right now, you just might think I’m a disgusting idiot. That is fine. The disposable swim diaper tip isn’t for everyone, but…
The comment that really made me do a double take was the one who wrote:
What does having a homebirth have to do with your disgust over washing a disposable swim diaper???
On one hand it makes me shake my head, but on the other hand I get it. She was claiming her natural living badge of honor. She was making it clear to everyone that she knew the secret handshake. She was in the club.
She claimed the homebirth badge of honor, but she could have just as easily said…
- cloth diaper user
- non-vaccination family
- baby wearer
- organic, locally grown foodie
…and on and on and on. With each badge of honor you put on, you can demand a greater amount of respect.
There I was standing in the town square of the natural living community and being stoned for my “stupid & disgusting” idea to wash disposable swim diapers.
On the first day I was laughing off the comments. On the second day the pain was starting to sink in.
I found myself wanting to shout back at those throwing the stones, “Wait!! I’m one of you! I’m had a natural birth. I breastfed both of my children well beyond the age of one. I don’t always buy organic, but I try my best. I’m one of you!!”
Comments on a Facebook post really can’t be taken to heart too much. I won’t cry myself to sleep because about 5 billion people told me not to be stupid and buy a cloth swim diaper.
But I need to take a step back and ask myself: when have I been part of the natural living crowd ready to throw a stone at one of our own?
When have I stood in judgment at someone else’s baby-step? When have I chosen to look down my nose instead of offering grace?
Would anyone ever scold someone for starting a new exercise routine by running around the block? Telling them they should have started with a marathon? Of course not! Baby-steps are important. They are of value and shouldn’t be dismissed.
Living a natural, green life is so difficult. The research. The cost. The time.
Let’s not make it harder by turning on each other. It isn’t all or nothing here, folks.
And that is exactly why I like to focus on taking baby-steps towards natural living here at Simply Rebekah. We all have things in life that we do well and we all have areas that need improvement.
For me, I have always used natural bath products on my kids, but they both wore disposable diapers.
I only purchased organic baby food or I made my own, but we don’t drink raw milk, kefir, or kombucha.
I avoid fabric softener, use wool dryer balls, and line dry my clothes in good weather, but sometimes I use Tide detergent.
I could go on and on with the examples. It is okay not to excel in every single area. It truly is okay that my efforts are not 100% perfect. At least I am making some efforts!
It is time to confess. What are some areas in your life that could use some help? How can I help you take baby-steps towards a more natural lifestyle?
Personally, I could use some major education in the area of natural remedies. I’ve only dabbled in essential oils. Sometimes I used coconut oil for diaper rash. I have an organic tea I like to drink when I have a sore throat. And…. that is about it. I could use some help. Big time.
This past winter really kicked my butt. For a solid 6 weeks (maybe more!) at least one person in my house was sick at all times. At one point I thought for sure that I was going to be cleaning up vomit for the rest of my life.
I want to prepare myself to handle all of that craziness better. To do that, I am going to take the online class A Parent’s Guide to Natural Remedies, which covers how to naturally help little ones with:
- A Fever
- A Common cold
- Cough and congestion
- Winter health
- Tummy bugs
- Infant reflux
- Ear aches
- Skin rashes
- First Aid
- Sleep issues
- and more….
Classes cover 14 topics! Each topic is delivered via a video recording that can be downloaded and listened to on the go. A PDF with the slides for each webinar is also available for making a quick reference when your child is in need.
UPDATE (Nov. 2015): Does that sound like a class you could use? The course is normally $99, but for 2 days only it is part of the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle for just $29.97! You know me, I love passing along a good frugal find!
The Parent’s Guide to Natural Remedies is among 80+ eResources (not counting bonuses!) in this year’s Ultimate Homemaking Bundle!
The collection is only available until Tuesday, November 3 at 11:59 PM EST, and it is only $29.97 (a $913 value!)
Let’s put our stones away and celebrate taking baby-steps!
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