I was probably 8 months pregnant and walking through a local gas station. A clerk walks around the corner, sees my swollen stomach, gasps, grabs her own stomach, and says, “Oh! It looks like it hurts!“
Thank you. Thank you so very much, gas station clerk.
26 Weeks Pregnant with Grace
ATTENTION WORLD: Pregnant women get big and just when you think they can’t possibly get any bigger, they do!
Two weeks ago I was talking to a woman about my pregnancy. She asked how far along I am and I responded, “Almost 4 months.”
“Really?? Are you sure there is just one in there? ‘Cause it looks like you could be about 5 and a half months.”
Thank you. Thank you very much.
ATTENTION WORLD: Not every pregnant woman is having twins. In the rare case that she is having twins, she’ll tell you.
My neighbor shared with me that people would often ask her to turn around when she was pregnant so they could see where she was gaining weight and how she was carrying. Then they would declare their gender guess based on how she looked.
She wasn’t always thrilled with people’s assessment of her weight gain. I don’t blame her!
ATTENTION WORLD: Please don’t analyze a woman’s weight gain “for fun” to guess the gender of her baby. #1 It doesn’t even work. It is just an old wive’s tale. #2 Would you like to take a spin in front of me so I can make blanket judgments about your body shape? What? That doesn’t sound like fun to you?
And for those few women who struggle to gain weight…
ATTENTION WORLD: If the mother is not gaining enough, her doctor will notice. There is no need for you to lecture her.
38 Weeks Pregnant with Grace
All joking aside, there are several things that factor into how much a woman is showing or how she is carrying her baby:
- Normal Body Shape – Thin ladies tend to show faster while heavier mamas tend to be able to hide it longer.
- Short or Long Waist – Does the baby have room to grow up into the waist or not? I have a pretty short waist and poor Grace had no where to go, but “out.”
- Number of Pregnancies – After the first baby, women tend to show faster because their muscles are already stretched out. She might not gain weight any faster, but the body still shows the pregnancy sooner. Time and time again my friends have shared with me how they (and myself!) struggle with this. I’ve felt embarrassed about how fast I’m showing this time, which really is silly…
The bottom line is: You are dealing with a woman (a woman who happens to have an abundance of hormones surging through her body), so when you decide to comment on her appearance please keep those “big as a whale” comments to yourself and be nice.
For more quality advice, read Top 10 Least Helpful Things to Say to a Woman in Labor.